Anyone with the patience or just the desire to feed their drama llama can attest to the insanity that is the “Mommy Message Boards”. I am a member on a certain baby raising website (anyone who’s had a kid in the last 10 years has probably popped on this site at one time or another), and it amazes me the level of treachery and online eye gouging that goes on! It has the inane ability to send you back to high school ready to watch two girls go at in the hallway after lunch.
I have learned many new words and phrases that I never knew existed since joining these various boards…..and there is a board for everything. Moms who Vaccinate; Moms who Don’t; Moms with Large Families; Moms with Only Children; Moms who Just Want to Lock Themselves in a Closet with a Bottle of Wine; etc, etc. I have learned about Sanctimommies (the mom who tells you how to parent you child regardless of whether you asked) and Extended Rear Face car seating (most of the diehards what to do it till their child is literally sitting like a giraffe in the backseat but honestly, it’s your kid and your choice as long as you are following the laws of your state).
The worst part of these boards is that is takes all the pettiness and “reality show” cattiness that happens when certain women get together and it exasperates it by giving you a forum to talk without any tone or voice reflection. There is a sarcasm font (italics) but someone can read something you mean as a light hearted to-each-their-own thing, and you get ripped apart because a mother thinks you are being facetious about her parenting style and proceeds to tell you what an awful person you are and how you should kill yourself because your child is better off without you. I wish I was exaggerating but I have read that on more than one occasion, and not from young girls. Those low blows usually came from women in their 40’s or older with multiple children who should really at least claim to know better. I also saw a women get her account deleted for going toe-to-toe with the stay-at-home-mom queen bee with seven children that didn’t like what she had to say so she reported her enough to get her booted!
The point of this is to say, why do you need validation for your parenting? If you love your children and are feeding, clothing, housing, playing and most of all LOVING them why do you give a shit what some faceless nut on the internet has to say? It’s your home and family, as long as you are completely confident in the choice you make who cares if someone says otherwise.
I am Mommy! Hear me Roar!