Pregnancy is a wonderful time, you anxiously await your new little baby and read all the baby books. There are some things that those books don’t cover though, here’s a list of what you should be aware of.
10) Back Pain
Once your uterus starts growing and becoming noticeable, so does the pain in your lower back. Your stance changes, therefore the muscles in your lower back try to compensate and then you get pain. You get told to try to stand properly but that’s easier said than done with a human sticking out of your stomach. Luckily, you can use a heating pad during pregnancy since it doesn’t raise your core temperature.
You always read that due to changing hormones, you may have “some acne”. What they fail to tell you is that the acne you get while pregnant rivals what you had when you still had braces and thought a 10 pm curfew made you so cool. You sit wondering if they still make Clearasil pads or if you have to wander the skin care aisle at CVS and hope you don’t have to ask anyone for help.
You will get tired. Not just “Man, I might need to lay down for a couple of minutes” tired, but “Oh my god I fell asleep at my desk and there is a drool stain on my shirt” tired. There will be days that you can’t even imagine getting up, let alone actually trying to do stuff. Add on a previous child and your exhaustion level reaches levels that no amount of coffee can cure, not that you can drink enough to make a difference anyway.
7) The Do Not List
When you are pregnant you are suddenly a walking list of things you can’t do. It doesn’t even bother you at first until you have a long day at work and would just love a glass of wine or are invited to a lunch and then realize that it’s all sushi or soft cheeses or some other food that you love but can’t eat until you are no longer boarding your child inside you. Soon you find yourself making a list of all the great things you are going to eat and drink after you give birth that you are too tired to look at once the baby actually gets here.
Some people are lucky and go through no heartburn during pregnancy. The rest of us are walking around surprised we are not breathing fire like a dragon. My heartburn started around ten weeks and slowly progressed worse and worse to the point that by the ninth month I’m wondering if I still have an esophagus or if it’s just a pile of ash hanging in my chest. Tums become a staple in your purse and you are always combing the internet for pregnancy safe remedies along with avoiding any food with the hint of spice in it. (Sorry tacos, I love you but we will meet again another day.)
5) Rude People
People see you with a pregnant belly and suddenly all of your life choices are everyone’s business. “Was this a planned pregnancy?”, “Are you married?”, “Are you getting drugs or are you going to be a real woman and go natural?” Apparently being at the grocery store or just out in the general public means you have opened yourself up to these questions and also be prepared for those people who think it is OK to rub a total strangers stomach thinking that you want whatever they did with their hands all over you.
4) The Poo Issue
I’ve heard of women who do not realize this until they get ready to push but in case you did not know this…..there is a chance you will poop while delivering. Sorry, it’s true. You use the same muscles to push out a baby that you do for….well, you know…so there is a chance it could happen to you. But instead of worrying about it and trying to not do it, which can cause problems for you, think about the fact that I can promise you that your doctor has seen a lot worse than some poop. At a certain point, it probably doesn’t even faze them anymore.
When you are pregnant, you will crave foods that you never touched normally and foods that you used to eat on the regular don’t even appeal to you. I used to never eat sweets a lot but once that test came out positive, all I wanted was a giant bowl of ice cream covered in chocolate chips. My normal love of chips and guacamole was put on the back burner as I had no desire for it anymore. Embrace the cravings, just don’t go nuts because unfortunately only 5-10 pounds of that weight gain is going to be baby.
2) Baby Kicks Get a Little Freaky
Feeling your baby kick for the first time is an amazing thing and it helps ease your mind about the pregnancy getting physical proof that the baby is OK. You do tend to feel like you’re in a sci-fi movie toward the end though as you are resting and a foot comes flying trying to kick it’s way out or the baby changes position and your stomach and a few internal organs change with it. Getting an outside view of the gymnastics show going on in there makes you get a little wide-eyed.
1) The Birth Plan Can Change
As you start researching labor and all the different ways that you can give birth, preferences start coming forward. You can plan for an uncomplicated home birth with soothing music and only interventions when you need them, however you should be open to the fact that childbirth can only be planned so much and you may need other medical interventions to keep both yourself and your child alive. I went into childbirth without any firm plans and just decided to let things happen as they happened and I found that I had no real regrets about my experience. Letting the experience unfold in front of me instead of planning it out worked the best for me as I had no preconceived ideas about how the day would happen. Be open to changing the plan and try not to stress about things afterward. The most important thing at the end is both mother and baby are healthy and recovering nicely.